It’s something I have been meaning to do for a while – get rid of social media from my life. It’s a conundrum because I love my blog and social media is a pretty integral way of sharing it.
However the time has come and it is going for a month (at least!). Twitter – I’m not interested anyway. Instagram – I only dabble in. Snapchat – I go through waves of using it and not. Being single, I date using Tinder and POF. But I think my main culprit is Facebook.
I would say that I use Facebook a normal amount. I don’t overshare. I just share nice photos if I have been on a special trip, family occasion or nights out with my friends. I don’t post photos of myself with a face full of make up saying “I’m ugly” so that people write nice comments. I don’t post photos of myself in a bikini saying “I’m fat” so that people say I’m not. I don’t really use it in any negative sense.
HOWEVER….I noticed a while ago that sometimes, when I am doing something fun, I am thinking of how I’m going to write this as a witty status update. I take photos – knowing that I am going to be sharing them on Facebook. I don’t like the fact that this has almost become normal behaviour. I’m also wary that is a highlight reel and it doesn’t paint a true picture. There is a danger on Facebook of comparing yourself too much to others.
My brother doesn’t have Facebook so, when I see him, there is a lot to tell him about. Sometimes there are even photos to show him. It’s the way it used to be. I want to make more effort to message my friends and family and maybe even speak to them on the phone and have a real conversation.
Most of all, it’s the time-wasting that frightens me. Life is short. We spend so many hours at work and asleep. It is actually really important that we use the hours leftover for positive things. We all spend too much time staring at our phones. For me it’s the scrolling through Facebook and Instagram inanely. I think that recently I have gotten into bad habits. I read less. I write less. At the moment, I am even exercising less.
The timing is right to get rid because I am going through a bit of a difficult time at the moment. Last year I had so many big dreams and goals. It’s an incredibly positive thing but I achieved everything I set out to do and more. So once triathlon season was over and my lovely summer travelling, I felt a bit flat. I have been feeling a bit flat (and not myself) ever since.
Combine that with a few terrible tinder dating experiences and it is time to get rid of all the fakeness. People can create online profiles to portray themselves however they want to be. I have learnt the hard way and I think online dating has made being single, at times, incredibly difficult and shallow. (but that’s a whole different blog post which i may or may not share!)
I want to use my time productively – whether creatively or socially or for self-improvement. I need to re-figure out exactly what it is that makes me happy. I have been strong and independent for so long now that I’m not surprised I am experiencing a wobble. It’s arrived and I’m trying to deal with it the best way I know how. I’m going to brush myself off, remember the important things and spend time figuring out what I need to be happy.
I would actually hate to know the truth of how many hours I spend a week not achieving anything on my phone. Let’s say, for the record, the total is 9 hours a week. I am going to take those 9 hours and put them to good use. Hopefully I’m going to learn some things along the way…
(Two lovely friends have agreed to be admins on my 100HD facebook page so hopefully they can continue to share my posts as I write them!)