I started a beginner’s yoga course yesterday and was inspired by something the instructor (amazingly named Stretch) said about leaving egos at the door.He talked about the importance of competing only with yourself.
I’m proud of my achievements this year and feel I have pushed myself to do things I never thought possible. Competing in an Ironman 70.3 and coming second in the Cornwall Triathlon Series are huge personal goals and accomplishments. Most people I know think I am crazy and have no intention or desire to do anything like me. And that’s absolutely fine!!!
During this year, I have met and competed against some incredible athletes. There have been moments where I have been inspired and amazed at the things people around me can achieve. There have also been a few moments where I may have felt overwhelmed by how much better and further ahead than me they are.
In the world that we live in, it is so easy to compare ourselves to everyone around us. Social media allows people to publish their highlight reels and it is almost impossible for us not to compare and compete. But going through life constantly comparing yourself to others is incredibly damaging. There will always, always, always be people that may seem “better” “happier” “fitter” “wealthier” “more successful” than you. If you view yourself by comparison to others, you will always feel unworthy.
Instead, compete with yourself! Challenge yourself! Set yourself goals! Your goals aren’t going to look anything like my goals and that’s a great thing! My goals don’t look anything like my own from three years ago. They have naturally evolved…
This month of October, I am taking a step back and a deep breath. I am taking some time to think about what goals I would like to achieve in the next year. I’m not thinking about what Mary next door wants to do, Tim from my tri club wants to do, Abby from work wants to do. I’m thinking about me. What do I want to do? What do I want to achieve? What will make me happy?
Last night I started a beginner’s course in yoga. I have only ever been to a handful of classes until now and it is completely different to anything I have done before but I absolutely loved it. I am TERRIBLE!!! I feel like a clumsy toddler learning to walk. Already the lady on the yoga mat next to me is much more flexible and bendy. But, as Stretch said, I am leaving my ego at the door. I’m going to keep going to yoga classes. I’m going to give it time and practise. I’m going to get better at it. That’s all that matters.
Don’t compare. Just do you. After all, nobody else gets to!